u/Hot-Watch-1046

hi guys. i broke up with my boyfriend of 1 yr 3 days ago and…am honestly having the worst time with it. i don’t know how to cope.

we broke up because we were too codependent and lost our individuality in the relationship — but we still love each other so much. for context this was our first relationship where we both genuinely loved the other person and things were great at the start. he mentioned that he had thoughts that maybe this wasn’t the kind of relationship he wanted to be in 3 months back, but didn’t say much. we were incredibly busy and kept pushing back more serious talks.

we said we could see what would happen in a few months but the pain of realizing someone who you still love won’t come back and most likely will fall out of love faster than you is crushing. i feel numb, and i’ve just been taking walks that last hours. it hurts so much.

on top of that, we can’t go no contact. we share so many friends, and we even work at the same place. i’m bound to see him. it hurts so much.

how do i cope? i don’t know what to do. i’ve grown distant with lots of friends and many are busy/gone for the summer.

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u/Hot-Watch-1046 — 23 days ago

got broken up by my boyfriend of a bit over a year last night, and honestly i’m devastated.

we broke up because we were too codependent, but even as we were breaking up, the only thing we could talk about was how much we loved each other and how we couldn’t believe this was happening. it was for the best, since we both wanted to be more independent and individual people— but i can’t let 1 year of relationship and 3 years of relationship down the drain. he was my best friend, my love, and probably the only person i’ll love that much. i can only think about us getting back together even though i know we can’t.

i don’t have lots of external support. i’m not on good terms with parents and lots of friends have moved away— what should i do to cope? does it get better?

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u/Hot-Watch-1046 — 24 days ago