my husband doesn’t keep his word
my husband and i have been together for 10 years and married for 4. over the last couple of years, he has started not keeping his word. it’s usually small things, but it keeps happening and he truly doesn’t care at all. he will tell me one thing and then do the complete and total opposite. then when i call him out or ask him about it, he says it’s not a big deal or to get over it. i’m feeling extremely dismissed and not a priority. today, i took our kitten to get spayed. i asked him to come home after work to help me since she was acting insane and jumping everywhere and howling- plus i have two big dogs that are very interested in why the kitty is freaking out, and i had to get back to work since i was pulled away more than once to drop off and pick up our kitten. he said he was dropping something off at his buddies house and he’ll be right home. i said are you sure you aren’t going to hang out because i need an extra set of hands here and he said no babe im just dropping this off. so 15 min goes by and he’s still there. i ask hey what’s going on and he dismisses it. i wait a bit longer and ask again since he’s still there. he dismisses me again and tells me to relax. by the time he left, it was an hour he had been there. so he gets home and i’m obviously annoyed because he literally does this to me multiple times a week. we get into an argument and he again tells me to get over it and i’m acting crazy and i need to stop taking everything to literally. so now im sitting here wondering if i shouldn’t be taking what he’s saying literally. but to me, if you tell me xyz and do the opposite, then that’s not keeping your word. and again, he does this all the time. from household chores, to promising we’d do something together and then blowing me off, to things like this. idk what to make of any of it and i’m just so mad and disappointed. i told him i’m going to start treating him the same way he’s been treating me and he didn’t care. it’s so frustrating because he’s my best friend and hasn’t always been like this.
has anyone else dealt with this and had a solution or been able to get through to their partner? i truly don’t know how much more of this i can take.
tl;dr- husband doesn’t keep his word and is unreliable. doesn’t care when i bring it up and turns it around on me like i shouldn’t be the one expecting him to do what he says he’s going to do.