SD 13 and lying to Dad
Hi guys,
I'm 39 and my SD is 13. I married her father 48 in 2025 after dating since 2023. Her BM is a terror. She is a DV abuser and the list goes on... Her father and I are a little put off by my SD's behavior lately. She was adamant about having her BM take her home from the band recital we were all attending for her brother, my SS. Starting at 5:00pm was her fathers custody time, the concert started at 6:00pm. The BM even said that she could take her home, we refused sighting it's his custody time. In a very kind way. We are nice to each other in front of the children. Anyway, she kept whispering to her mother and then asked her Dad to take her to her Mom's to pick up text books that she "forgot". She doesn't forget. She had been texting about this for over a week. I told my spouse that he needs to ask her what's going on. I feel that it is not appropriate for me to interfere as I am still fairly new in her life and I know her emotions are all over the place. I was 13 once and I was a mess lol. She was very close with her father until I came along. Is there any advice you guys have to what I should be doing during this time? I want to respect her space, and be close with her at the same time. For reference, I have made it very clear from the beginning, I am not her mother. She has her mother. I am her step mother and we have a safe relationship where she can come to me for any advice and never feel shame.
Thanks guys!