Was I overreacting cancelling a date over this?
I matched with this guy on hinge, we’re both in our late 20’s. He’s in my city for a few weeks for work, and we moved the conversation to Instagram. We seemed to click pretty well and made plans for a date this past Friday.
The day of the date is when things started to feel off. For context, we were talking about working out and leading lifestyles to be more fit. I told him I was excited I was finally seeing progress from a new approach I was taking with my meals. He then asks me if my “body comp has changed” since my last post. Weird thing to ask especially since you can’t even see my body in my last post. Not to mention there’s other recent full body pics on my profile and im generally petite and not by any means overweight; I just was trying to shed a few pounds and get more toned. I replied dryly and said it’s changed maybe a little and I have slimmed down since January.
That’s when he said that was hot and asked if he could see. I got a little defensive and he said his fault and saw no issues with a “little preview” so then I got really defensive and asked to elaborate what a “preview” meant. He backed off a little and meant he just wanted to see a photo of me and meant nothing by it. He apologized and did acknowledge it was making me uncomfortable. He then asked if I wanted to cancel our plans. I was still uncomfortable and politely cancelled. He responded politely and apologized again and we unfollowed each other.
I struggle with dating and tend to be a little guarded sometimes. I’ve been trying to work through it, but this just felt a little triggering and I also know it’s important to trust my gut. However, I still can’t shake this feeling that it wasn’t that big of a deal. Did I overreact? Just looking for unbiased feedback.