u/HotDogWater1977

52M 5’11” 215lbs…history of PAD, CAD, type 2 diabetes, resistant hypertension, stroke (all the meds he takes is in correlation to his health issues, can list of needed)

On May 26 he(my husband) underwent a femoral endarterectomy, so he’s 10 days post op. His follow up appointment with the vascular surgeon isn’t until June 24. The pic on the left was from Thursday June 4, the pic on the right is from today. Because of his diabetes, I’ve been checking the wound and I’m not liking what I see. The good news is it’s not draining, there’s no odor and he has no fever…but the red area has grown a tad and feels warm to the touch (not alarmingly warm, but warm nonetheless)

What is going on with the black area between staples 5-6 from the bottom up, and then on the right it’s now cream colored and looks dead??? He’s definitely going to call to see if he can be seen earlier, or at the very least send his vasc doctor a pic, especially if it warrants being looked at sooner than later!

I (48F) babysat my 4.5yr old grandson and 2yr old granddaughter last night so my daughter(26) could pick up a shift at work. She and the kids dad are no longer together, so he later came to pick the kids up for the weekend.

The kids and I were having so much fun, playing, laughing, be silly…but when I said “your dad is here!” a switch flipped in my grandson. He cried and screamed. His dad spoke in a soft tone at first, but then he got angry, saying to my grandson “this is fucking ridiculous” as he restrained him and got him in his car seat. Meanwhile my grandson is screaming at the top of his lungs “no no no I don’t want to go”. Seeing and hearing that broke this grandma’s heart. I cried on the 25 minute drive home.

Something isn’t right. This is not the first time my grandson has acted like that. Any time I’ve had him over and dad would pick him up, he would freak out. Any time I would be visiting at their house while my daughter was still with him and dad came home from work, my grandson would freak out and would tell him “go back to work” or “I don’t want you here”.

Dad does not seem to have any patience for the kids. I have witnessed him call my grandson an asshole and be rough with him, but there are no other signs of outright abuse.

This truly is a vent, because wtf can I do about it without “proof” of anything. I told my daughter and she said nothing. I’m open to any insight because this is weighing so heavily on my mind. I love my grandbabies so much and already have anxiety and over worry about them.

Does this look like normal post-op healing?

Saw my grandson have a nuclear meltdown and I cried all the way home