Boyfriend says my illness is draining his energy
I've been diagnosed with a rare condition called cyclical vomiting syndrome and it's exactly what it sounds like; I go through periods of nausea and vomiting for a few days then become asymptomatic for a few months before it cycles again. It's triggered by stress and it's horribly exhausting for me because it usually always happens at 2 in the morning. My boyfriend has complained about me waking him up (I don't intend to, I try to leave the room to go to the bathroom as quietly as possible but he's a very light sleeper) and basically made me feel like absolute shit over something I can't control. I told him it made me upset and he apologized and tried to do better going forward. Cut to yesterday, I was just trying to ask him politely to help out with household chores because I'm going through a lot right now (also have a PTSD diagnosis) and it's making my mood worse and he just shut down and became very bitter. Then he told me that he's exhausted too because my illness and my "bad mood" (my PTSD flashbacks) are draining all his energy. I feel like that was so unempathetic and showed no compassion and I don't even know what to say or how to feel about it. Should I leave him or try to fix things? We're both open to couples counseling but I just feel lost now.