Am I wrong for sleeping with someone else while separated from my husband?
Am I wrong for sleeping with someone else while separated from my alcoholic husband of 15 years? I put him through rehab where he left AMA to be home for Christmas, relapsed on Christmas leaving his three kids and wife (who was sick with the flu) at home to go get drunk (he never admitted this he made up a story). He then left back to rehab due to the relapse but lied stating that his therapist called him and recommended that he come back to finish the program. He then attempted to leave AMA again however his counselor called to inform me that she does not recommend it because of his recent relapse, (she assumed that I knew he had relapsed). we did family counseling at his rehab and I made it clear to him that if he continues to drink then our marriage is done. We also discussed how his alcoholism affected me including him never helping around the house leaving me to do all cleaning and cooking although I was the primary breadwinner and how this pushed me into survival mode, taking important moments away from me with our 3 children. As well as financial issues due to poor spending habits leading me to thousands in debt. After almost another month in rehab he was released. He was sober (to my knowledge) for a month. 2 months ago I found out that my husband had relapsed again on my birthday while I was working a double. I then told him that I want to separate. While separated I slept with another man. He asked me whether I did and I was honest. He then began name calling me, screaming and belittling me while our children were right outside. He then called me when I was driving to work to continue yelling at me in which our children heard resulting in them asking what was going on. He then tried to force me to tell my child (8 yo) what I did. And then told my children (2,7,8) "we will never ever be getting back together" to which they started sobbing and wailing. He states that I am the one that ruined our marriage and that what I did was worse than what he put me through for 15 years. Please someone from the outside looking in, how do I navigate this? AITA?