u/Hot_Arm_5059

about 8 months ago i moved in with my boyfriend and since then we have both lost a lot of previous hobbies/interests we had partaken in for ourselves. this has caused my boyfriend to become bored a lot of the time and he feels very attached to me, so anything he wants to do or go he almost always does not want to do it alone. outside of work and school we are together all of the time and we do a lot of things together - video games, walking, painting, baking, shopping, etc. when we arent doing these things together he immediately becomes bored and tells me so, but with his boredom he becomes almost depressed immediately. he has bipolar so i think it may be a side effect of having this disorder, but it can be right after we do an activity that he tells me he feels unloved. although he tells me its likely insecurity, im unsure what i can do to fix this. i think we make the most of our quality time together and it is clear he enjoys the activities we do and all we chat about, so i do not know exactly what he feels he needs. ive asked him and he does not know either and that is okay, but we have had the same conversation many times and hes never able to tell me what more he needs from me. consequently, i feel responsible to keep him busy so he doesnt end up getting upset. recently i had a talk with him about doing more things for ourselves and that we have basically lost our individuality, he agreed but nothing changed. this morning i told him what i planned to do for myself today and as soon as we were done eating breakfast and i was ready to get in the shower he told me he was bored and visibly seemed upset. i asked if he had anything he wanted to do and he said "workout" so in response i said "yeah, you should do that!" then proceeded to tell him i was going to get in the shower. i had forgotten something so i walked out into the living room and he still seemed upset and hadnt moved so i asked if he was okay and he told me he felt unloved again. every time we talk about why or what i can do better for him, he communicates an answer that doesnt help us move forward such as "idk". im not perfect and dont want to come off like i dont get frustrated about it sometimes because i do and i say things that i couldve worded better, especially with the context of my partner being upset. regardless i feel as if the communication isnt there and isnt improving, so without that i would like to know if there is something better i could say or do to help the situation. if anyone has felt the way he does in their relationship it would be nice to hear from that perspective also so i could improve. this also may be poorly titled, sorry in advance.