how to ask a guy to try anal?
this is my first time ever posting or asking anything on reddit, so please be nice!
i’ve been hooking up with this guy for a few months now and honestly it’s been great. he’s a really sweet guy, kind of dumb in an endearing way, and just very easy to be around. he’s also the first guy i’ve ever let eat me out, so i feel like we’ve already done a lot of pretty intimate things together.
lately i’ve been curious about trying anal. the thing is, pretty much everyone i know, including all of my girlfriends, thinks anal is gross or weird, so i think i’ve kind of internalized that. at the same time, it seems like it could feel really good and i do want to try it.
i guess what i’m struggling with is bringing it up. i know talking about these kinds of things is normal, but i’m worried about weirding him out by suggesting it. he’s definitely pretty freaky, but i have no idea if he’s freaky enough to be into anal, if that makes sense.
i also have another concern. i’ve read that douching or trying to clean out your colon before anal isn’t really recommended and can actually be unhealthy, but i’m worried that if i do end up asking him and we try it, i won’t be “clean” enough, if that makes sense.
for those of you who’ve been in a similar situation, how did you bring it up with your partner? and if you’ve tried anal, what helped you feel comfortable and prepared beforehand?
thank you!