Wife cheated with another woman
I guess I’ll start this out saying I already know I’m going to be needing to get divorced. I’m just mad and scared at having to actually start the process. I’m sure I could go into a lot of detail, but I might keep this a little more simple, unless it looks like this post gets attention.
I (46M) have been married to my wife (46F) for about 20 years. A couple years ago I discovered my wife was in an intimate relationship with another woman. Not only did I have the shock of an affair, I wasn’t sure what to make of what I found out since my wife had never hinted or spoken of her having attraction there. Again, to make the story simple, we decided to stay married. She admitted she screwed up pretty bad. She promised that the relationship was over and wouldn’t happen again and that she didn’t want to lose our family; we have 3 kids together. And I didn’t want to have a broken up family either.
I’m sure you can tell what’s next. Yeah, I’ve found out that relationship (same woman) has been happening again. I haven’t confronted her that I know yet.
I’ve given support, sacrifice and love in this marriage for 20 years and haven’t even thought for one second to try and do anything that even resembles cheating. So like I said, I don’t want to be with someone who’s going cheat, promise it’s done, but then sneak right back into that relationship. Like I said, I’m angry at the whole situation and scared at having to do something that will impact my kids in a massive way with a ton of unknowns ahead.
So I’m putting this out to just see if anyone has some advice on how to proceed, or what to expect. I don’t really have anyone around me to talk about something like this with.