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I wanted more time, she didn’t, so I ended things and now I have no time with her.

I’ve done this before 3 years ago with someone else.. the wanting more and not wanting to settle for whatever breadcrumbs I could get. Those were the only two relationships in 3 years that I had… and they both feel like tremendous losses.

I don’t know if I’m just misunderstanding polyamory or just really stuck in the denial/bargaining stage of my grief but can someone remind me why settling for less is worse than losing that person we love entirely?

No contact is hard and it almost feels nonsensical to want more and then choose to never talk to them again 😭