What Should i Do ?
I swear I’ve tried everything to make things work with my mother-in-law, but she is incredibly difficult, fake, and constantly talks badly about me behind my back.
I’ve been with my fiancé for 2 years, and for 1 year and 2 months we lived with his mother because she had serious back health problems. During that time, we helped her a lot. The situation was very hard for me because she smokes around 20 cigarettes a day, doesn’t work anymore, and lives on a government pension.
At some point I told my fiancé that if we wanted to build our own family and future together, living in that situation was only holding us back. So we decided to move out.
At first, she seemed happy for us and even gave us some things for the new place — plates, containers, and a mixer. I never asked for any of it, but she insisted.
But when moving day came, she did everything possible to make our lives harder. She complained about everything, kept asking my fiancé to do extra things, and created stress the entire day. We were exhausted.
At the end of the day, my sister-in-law and mother-in-law were saying that we are “ungrateful,” which honestly hurt a lot because we were the ones helping the most the whole time. We even bought extra food for them regularly.
Now I honestly feel uncomfortable keeping the things she gave us because it doesn’t feel like they were given with love or good intentions. I want to return everything, but my fiancé says to just stay quiet and let it go.
What would you do in my situation?