My girlfriend left town for a trip, and she might be meeting a guy. AIO?
Hello there, long time lurker here. Ive had to make a burner account for obvious reasons.
So, let me start. My girlfriend (28), and I (29), have been together about a year. We have never had any trust issues and I definitely love her very much. We have not even had so much as an argument because we talk things out pretty regularly.
Recently though, ive noticed she has seemed a bit distant, and just not as affectionate. Almost as if she doesnt want me to touch her for too long.
Anyways, noticing this hasnt felt great, but i havent prepared to bring it up with her yet, in case I was imagining things.
Today she left for her vacation, i felt super anxious and i couldn't put my finger on why. I paced around the house and took an anxiety nap.
When I woke up, my heart was still beating hard and I just wanted to curl up in a ball.
This is embarrassing, but i remembered she had her iPad here. I got up and grabbed her iPad, and when I did, I saw Instagram was installed which confused me as ive never seen her use Instagram on her iPad. This may seem like nothing to someone else, but for some reason alarm bells were going off. I opened the app, and checked her DMs.
I saw that she had been messaging someone for a couple weeks. There was flirtation happening, and as it turns out, this guy lives in the area she is vacationing in. Now after seeing this my heart dropped out of my ass, and I started scrolling.
From what I can see, there is nothing overtly sexual, but there is flirting from his side constantly. She is not turning it down in any way and, from what i can tell, it seems like shes enjoying these conversations.
So they might meet up, and i just dont know what to do. If these are just flirtatious messages without intent, I want to talk to her and see if im maybe not giving her something she needs. I think the last thing i should do is confront her on her trip, and talk to her in person. But im just looking for insight.
This is not like her, and I just dont want to ruin something good by blowing it up with my emotions.
I will give updates if they come.