I'm (23m) a self-described mama's boy. My mom (47f) and my dad (48m) are Christians. They have their ideals but they have been very appreciating of my fiancee Yuki (27f).
Yuki is an individualist. I obviously hasn't seen the dress, since I'm the groom, but she has told me she will wear a black wedding dress and carrying a gothic black umbrella when walking down the aisle. She has other non-traditional plans for her wedding look but those 2 are the most obvious.
I'm excited to see Yuki's look on our wedding day. Ironically, she will look ethereal to me. But I know my parents won't like Yuki's look.
My sister Ashley (20f) has seen Yuki's dress and she's actually been good at refraining from giving any details. Ashley said that Yuki's dress is gorgeous but she's worried about mom and dad. Ashley suggested I should warn our parents so they don't feel blindsided.
I know my parents process disappointing news better when they are given a heads up but I Yuki wants her dress to be a surprise. I know if I ask Yuki if I could warn my parents, she will wonder if I'm cowering to my mom's wishes. I told Ashley that I don't think I should warn my parents.
Ashley mentioned how our parents have been accepting of Yuki but a wedding is a serious thing for our parents. That a gothic black wedding dress means something totally different to them. I told her I know but Yuki wants it to be a surprise to the guests, so it will be a surprise to the guests.
Ashley accused of intentionally antagonizing our parents. I told her to let Yuki be and don't try to pressure her to change her mind. Am I the asshole?