u/HumanAuthor9053

I’m a gay man (25) who lives with a straight woman (23). We are good friends but both struggle to make new friends. She is very paranoid about people knowing we live together so I can’t have people over but she can bring over our one mutual friend. While it was a bit annoying I understood that because being a woman can be scary. She always makes comments about my body (being really skinny, twink potential) that are supposed to be funny but I’m always careful to make comments back because I know weight is a sensitive topic. She sometimes makes sexual jokes like ‘you have experience with this…’ referring to something handy. I personally don’t mind these jokes but when she came back home upset one day I purposely asked if she might be pregnant to joke back. The idea was to be purposely annoying but she took it personally and called me a misogynist. I have a friend with whom I act the same way and my roommate said my friend is extremely uncomfortable but won’t say anything (she’d playfully push me and I’d push her back etc) when I asked my friend if she feels this way she said my roommate is just sensitive and if it bothered her she’d tell me something. Then I began to notice she makes comments about how I act around people all the time (you made this person uncomfortable because you asked them some personal questions…) however in my POV I’m considerate but also believe people are grown adults and I cannot overthink every interaction I have with people. She makes me question my own intentions - I’m aware of how some gay men can be misogynist but I’ve always had many female friends and barely had to encounter this problem. I do think men and women communicate differently though. I prefer staying by myself but she sometimes comes to talk to me and we end up talking about the same things, and it just drains me… I would appreciate some advice. Thanks!