I’m processing a lot right now so bare with me
I’ve been with my partner for nearly 6 years, we’ve had a mostly good relationship.. he’s kind, caring, and supportive but things have changed so much
Alcohol has been an issue throughout our relationship but I don’t think I’d understood what’s been going on until now
My partner has no off switch when it comes to alcohol which has resulted in him vomiting all over our home, drink driving many times, falling asleep down alleyways, passing out on our bedroom floor, gambling while drunk, unintentionally pouring drinks on me and crashing into me, the list goes on…
It used to only be binge drinking but since he’s been working away it’s become a more frequent habit
Last summer I woke up to him vomiting all over our bed in the middle of the night when I had work the next morning. It was one of the most traumatic nights of my life and I vowed I wouldn’t put up with anymore alcohol related instances
Well… fast forward to last week when he went to the pub, got really drunk and then drove the windy dangerous 30 minute journey back to his working away accommodation. I called him when he got home to chat about our days and I could immediately tell he was very drunk, he then proceeded to lie about driving until I got it out of him he’d driven himself home
The worst part was his reaction the next day, he said I was creating a problem, that it wasn’t a big deal, that I needed to tell him how to fix it because I’m the one with the issue, that he’d said sorry and he “wouldn’t do it again” (I’ve heard that sentence many times) and that I needed to let go of the past.
I’ve also had the sinking realisation we had this exact issue one year ago to the month and he used the same language “you’re the one with the problem” then as well
I don’t know what to do anymore, we’re nearing our 30s and I don’t want a lifetime of this
Is this alcoholism? I’ve never truly processed the fact that’s what this is?
I just need advice please, or support, I’m so lost with this
Thank you for reading this far ❤️