if it's anything I've learned from watching this subreddit...
A lot of people nitpick at things that are fractures in relationships. Yeah, I know cheating sucks, and sometimes finding out they're with someone else sucks... but working as a security guard and law enforcement, there's this thing called "continuity of behaviour" sometimes it's not even the cheating that should be focused on with how everything is in 2026. If I were still in my long term relationships, I would forego the cheating and analyze the patterns of behaviour and repeat patterns of stupidity. If you learn things like they been to other dwellings, apartments, properties then yeah it goes byebye... if it's something like "yeah I hooked up at a bar" I'd be like "oh for real?" you can usually determine a placeholder mat/queue line buy just how many times things went on... catching them in the cheat is far different then catching them in the acutal art of lying itself.