How would you handle this bridesmaid drama?
I need advice on what to do in this situation. My best friend (we’ll call her C) and I are both getting married 3 months apart. She is one of my bridesmaids (sister is my MOH) and I am C’s MOH. Due to scheduling, we had our bachelorette trips two weeks apart. During my bachelorette trip I had all of my bridesmaids, one of them being my fiance’s sister. Throughout the trip, C did not show any interest in getting to know my future SIL (this was their first time formally meeting). However, asked everyone in the group (also first time meeting) personal questions, telling all the girls they look beautiful, asking for everyone’s social media, holding the door for others, except to my SIL. C later invites every other girl except for my SIL to her bachelorette party (2 weeks after mine) in front of her. Being upset she called my fiance (her brother) to vent. She is also in a tough place bc she just got dumped (all of my bridesmaids knew). She gave him some of the details and how she was feeling at the time she was thinking maybe she was just being emotional/overthinking. When I got home, my fiance mentioned it but we didn’t get deep into it. Fast forward to C’s bachelorette trip, as her MOH she reached out asking if I had indeed invited all the other girls for her (didn’t mention my SIL). I have no right to dictate who she wants/doesn’t want there, but I knew it would cause tension and voiced this to her. The worst part is that I just found out most of these details today after my SIL had seen C’s bachelorette pics and reached out to me and explained C intentionally excluding her at my trip and showing no effort of getting to know her. Here’s the kicker, I had never seen this side of C before and am now questioning why she would want to go out of her way to exclude my future SIL. This has caused my fiance and his family to also feel as though she doesn’t care about me or the strain this has caused right before my wedding (in 10 days). I love my SIL and to me family is more important as they’re nothing but great to me and haven’t forced me to make any permanent decision regarding this. However, do I allow C to still be part of my wedding and me be apart of hers if this is how she treats my new family? How do I approach having a conversation with C? Is it bad if we part ways if she makes excuses/ downplays the situation?
Random extras:
C did not make these girls her bridesmaids, just extra guests on the trip.
She is bad with names, but to this day never gets my fiances (simple) name right. Even put the wrong name on her save the date that we received.