u/Hungry_Ad3040

Hey all I posted here before about my millie and received such support I wanted to come back and ask for some advice for the future.

Almost two weeks ago I had to put my 5 month old baby down because of genetic kidney disease/stones. I’ve carried a lot of guilt but know there was little to zero I could’ve done as she had no symptoms until I immediately brought her to the emergency vet where they gave fluids until her heart rate dropped. I was prepared to spend any amount of money if she could have quality of life but unfortunately she succumbed and was too young to operate on. She was my first real pet and I know she was spoiled and well taken care of but I am scared to adopt again because I still feel like I was somehow to blame. I knew kidney disease was prevalent in kittens but did a lot more research during the 12 hours at the emergency vet waiting for news.

Today it appears the cat distribution system has found me a 6 week old kitten from the side of the road (via a friend). I feel guilt because it’s so soon and I don’t want it to be like replacing her even though logically I know it’s just because I loved being a cat mom and my apartment is now empty and sad and I don’t know how much time will help.

Personal feelings aside I have had multiple signs that this cat was sent to me for some reason or another (eerily creepy and blatant signs too which is wild), but given the kittens age and their vulnerability I am scared and want to do everything in my power from day 1 to give this baby the best chance. Before I had gone to the vet multiple times for the required shots and even brought her in for the slightest sneeze (they looked at me crazy). Are there certain extra measures and tests I should be asking for besides the standard check ups? They told me she was perfecting healthy only 2 months before she passed.

Sorry this is super long winded i definitely could’ve condensed this but wanted to give full backstory.

Wanted to say thank you for all the comments, I genuinely have never been so distraught and support from those in similar situations, was a much needed comfort 🩷

After 12 hours in the emergency vet on fluids they came back with her sonogram results. They said she appears to have kidney stones and crystals (which was still hard to hear but relief it was not an immediate need to put her down/possible hope) and will be held over the weekend with hope to flush them out where if successful, I can monitor her but will have a shorter life expectancy. Further, if unsuccessful they suggested a catheter surgery to implant into her kidney ties.

I keep blacking out everytime they update me bc I’m so in shock but they said she could have full quality of life but again shorter. I personally will do anything I can and have the means to provide her with any care she needs given that I am not prolonging an uncomfortable life for her bc I want what is best for her.

I’m sure I’m mixing up the medical terms but is anyone familiar with such a surgery or what this means for my baby? I will spend whatever money but they said it req a lot of maintenance and may need to be repeated down the road and I don’t want to subject her to constant medical procedures if it’s not a somewhat long term solution.