u/Hunteil

Backstory: So I found myself agreeing to my wife's desire to divorce. Just trying to heal after she left me & I need the security of independence like she has... I don't want this. I love her, I love my kids. We're cordial & in agreement 50/50 over custody. She just wants out bc she doesn't believe we're good enough together & just don't agree.* she also doesn't want a lawyer involved & thinks we can just divorce out of court cheaply. She was wrong I found. Court is required... and a lot of forms...... in order to seek out that personal security that she's not gonna ruin me. I went through the forms figuring things out. Then it hit me we should just get this over with. Separate financials & work on ourselves separately. If she comes back. Fine so be it. I can't heal not knowing if she's gonna bury me.

Plan:

- Meet up & fill out drafts of forms (done)

- I transfer drafts into digital copies

- I print copies for her & me to review independently.

- we review the copies w/free attorneys from the state.

- come back together & update docs if we change minds.

- I reprint & include my response & hand it to her.

- She goes to court clerk & files them.

- we wait...

We're totally in agreement on everything. And a few days later through our plan... I realized I'm sitting here filling out divorce forms for my wife against me... it's kinda surreal...

Making me question things... I've never heard of a story like this... am I wrong for just agreeing?........ I love her... maybe this is my codependency making me submit & letting her go over 7yrs of marriage. It's not like she wants anything. I'm willingly giving child support bc I feel it's right. It's not like I won't be with them 50% of the time too...

So here's my previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce\_Men/s/vki1cjeRpG

Update: co-parenting is going well. We've been very civil & cordial... she's been going to therapy & even got her driver's permit & applied to jobs (early 30's) (I didn'thold her back from getting a license, her mom did). She told me she's been enjoying the independence & felt trapped in our marriage & didn't like the idea of not earning the things she's acquired through the marriage. She doesn't like the fact everything is given to her... (hearing this made me so proud of her). Everything seems like it's going good... but i think I'll be stuck in this married Separation situation for at least 6 months... I've been following the advice of all these marriage failure ads which is kinda funny...

Guys, if you're in a Separation. Focus on yourself. These ads are for expensive counseling sessions & more tuned for guys who aren't researchers, or don't have time, or that need an awakening in a different environment. They have their purpose. But if you're interested & open to listening to them. You should research & take things from each of them & becareful not to force things on her.

Anywho, I wanted to ask you guys... the advice I'm getting from my therapist is to keep doing what I'm doing, don't expect her to return, focus on my health, focus on my kids etc & go out & socialize & make new friends to help get this funk out of my head. My problem is I'm an introvert. My old sports groups don't meet & split & idk where to start... I used to do a lot of hobbies, but most of them don't have groups to do them with like wood working & smithing & gaming. I'm in my 40's too. Any advice?

I've been watching & reading here... time to share. I need advice.

Wife left w/my 3 kids 4 weeks ago. I was torn up by it & trying to make sense of it all. Basically the situation is Separation. She's living at her mom's w/the kids.

Idkwts... she claims she doesn't love me & has been lying to me for 10years. Structurally nothing has really changed. We're still married & we're coparenting. We agreed to 1 month of separation to see how it goes. Allow her to detox from birth control meds just in case. Well the 1 month is up & today I reached out to her to see if she was better & where her mind is. She pretty much said we're continuing as we are... and when i asked her what she wanted. She replied with a idk...

I'm not sure what to do.

This is a unwanted separation... the word divorce hasn't been used yet. There's a crap ton more info. But I guarantee you that I've done everything I can for my wonderful family. We've been co-parenting perfectly almost. I'm getting the kids less than I should be. But I'm trying my best to be a good dad & husband... i just want what is right... but I can't help feel like I'm doing the nice guys syndrome & just getting screwed.

Note: no other man involved. She stated she didn't want a false marriage & to be like her mother's marriage where she stayed with him for him bc it was easier.

Ps: year 1 she suggested we could just be friends w/a kid. I fought for our marriage then in hopes things could improve.. clearly it hasn't. Pss: she turned down couples counciling.

So we're going through a separation & FB's personal info detection figured it out. And now almost every ad shows something related to my situation. My wife sends me videos too which probably triggered it. Some videos are ads to help man suffering & explaining great info but always leads to a thing to sign up for their classes. But the guidance they claim to have sounds perfect for what's happening. And I'm starting to think I need it... also some videos or ads I've found seem to attack marriages & tell me to give up. But I think they could be the same idea?

Anyways I just wanted to see if other people are being bombarded like me... I find it very discouraging... but also hopeful for solutions still existing.

What are some of the worst commands in AutoCAD?

Feel free the list commands that need attention from Autodesk & why.

Mine is 3DCLIP

It looks exactly the same as it did when it was first introduced & still just as sluggish or worse to work with. Should be a menu to just manually type in values. Or better yet, tie it to the Viewport properties so we don't have to enable orbit & load everything in 3D.

Ps: Made this b/c I see posts where people list out some of the best commands but not a post for the opposite. Figured maybe I'm missing something.