u/HuntsmenSuperSaiyans

I've had very poor luck with large Discord communities, ones with 100+ members to be precise. In one, I had a spat with one of the moderators over some online content creator that led to my leaving the server. In another, I voiced an opinion about harmful tropes in anime that was interpreted by the mods as anti-Japanese racism and I was promptly banned. In yet another, I got into a spat with a mod over one of the server rules, was accused by one of the mods' friends of purposely orchestrating the spat for attention, then I stormed out of the server after telling said friend to go fuck themselves.

I'm starting to think this isn't just a *them* problem. I worry that my personality is grating on certain people. I don't try to insult people or otherwise put them down unnecessarily, but I am strongly opinionated and my wit is exceptionally dry, so I can come across as an asshole. When I say something that I intended as a lighthearted joke, then I'm met with hostility in return, I tend to get flustered and defensive, and that can devolve into pointless arguments that solve nothing and hurt everyone.

I don't want to be an asshole. I don't want to hurt anyone. 90% of the time I don't, but things can get quite nasty that other 10%. How can I avoid situations like this in the future?

I had an idea for a Vampire: the Masquerade character. In life, he was born around 250 BC in Rome, he fought in the Second Punic War, and when he was turned into a Vampire, he just held onto the weapons he was issued. Over the next 2200 years, he'd insist on continuing to maintain and use his old Roman kit under the justification of "if it was good enough for Cannae, it's good enough for now goddammit."

Is this realistic? Could a weapon continue to be serviceable across millennia if its immortal owner were diligent about keeping it maintained?