I am so bad at math I'm starting to hate and despise it, and to drop out of uni
Long rant ahead. Sorry for any grammar mistakes, english is not my first language.
No matter how hard I try to understand maths, I'm just plain stupid and I can't grasp what is easy for my classmates, so I get frustrated and anxious that I can't be as good as them, nor even good enough to pass the subject.
Worst part is, I got into an engineering grade so maths are absolutely necessary. I thought I could become good at it because I was really interested and passionate for my career, but now I'm second guessing why I fucking chose engineering cause I suck so much at it and everyone else is good while I'm the dumbest one in the group, and everyone is aware of it so no one asks me for help for anything cause I just don't know anything.
I failed the maths subject of the past quarter, so I have to retake it in this one but honestly at this point I just want to say fuck it and quit, cause I'm hating it so much and having an extra course makes everything more stressful. I've been struggling really bad with my mental health because I had a demanding full time job for a while and I was exhausted and mad all the time, to the point I was having self destructive ideas and frequent meltdowns. Never mind my on and off case of very disordered eating adding to everything.
The problem is, my generation is the last one in our study plan so they made it clear that if we fail or drop out we won't be able to re enter where we left and instead we'll have to start from zero. In my school you don't chose which subjects to take nor the schedule, and if you fail one subject you must take it during the next quarter though only with tutoring time instead of classes, and if you fail it again you are kicked out of the grade and any other that included that subject.
If I fail again all my progress and time invested will be gone to waste and I'm only one year away from finishing. But if I'm honest I don't even care anymore nor want anything to do with maths. I hate them, I suck really bad at them and I can notice how those who have tried to help me also get frustrated with me because I'm so stupid I can't grasp what is supposed to be easy.
The only reason I'm still there is because a close friend begged me to not give up, convinced me that I can do better and has been more supportive than anyone else by helping me study and being there when I needed it the most, but I'm tired and I just can't make myself care anymore. My dream used to be to finish uni but now I don't even know why I got into it when I'm too dumb for the basics of my degree. I feel stupid and like a failure because I'm 30 and I waited so long to be able to get into uni because I was extremely poor and there were no nearby places where STEM degrees were taught where I used to live.
I've had very high suspicions of having ADHD for years (lots of deep research and having relatives diagnosed with it) so I've been wondering if I could be struggling with dyscalculia.
How can I stop hating and despise math this much?
Or maybe some people are inherently bad for it and I should instead reconsider studying something else?