I need advice
I’m 20f who still lives with my parents. I want to not be a people pleaser but my mother seems to enable me to be a people pleaser. There are some things that my parents accept about me and some things I have to keep to myself. Mormonism is a big part of their lives, so if I give valid reasons why I don’t like the culture, they get defensive. Some moments I’m accepted than some others I feel criticized. I would talked to her that I should learn to decenter man, but she’d ask if I was bisexual all because man have hurt me. But she’s been hurt by man, and still ended up with one that’s treats her better. But in reality I reflected and noticed that I felt that male attention determined my worth and that it wasn’t natural to be attracted to girls, so heteronormative expectations were reinforced on me. My sister asked if she could have a sleepover with her friend who is gay. Our parents said no because he’s a guy. I was curious if I could have a sleepover with my friends and my dad says that I should rent a hotel, because he thinks that I’ll have sex with all the guys and girls if I were to have a sleepover. I see the point but I still have a type for guys and girls, but I prefer another woman and I can’t get pregnant if I were to have sex with another woman and even if I had a sleepover with a friend if doesn’t mean I’m going to fuck them. I think that once I move to my own home, I’m not going to have much contact with my parents.