Should I continue living the way it is right now?
M 28 (myself) partner is F27. I’m a HL and she’s…I guess you can say LL (or possibly viewing sex as something not important?)
Been dating her the past year or so. We enjoy each other’s company and we’ve moved into the phase where we want to get married. The only issue is sex. Over the past few months, I feel more and more tired of asking her for sex. I feel like me asking for sex is a burden, to her and to my self esteem.
She always rejects it and says that she’s anxious, she’s got a lot of work to do, anxious about her family (has her location). She also says that she feels guilty rejecting me and she wants to do it too but she’s too tied up? We do have some intimacy like touching, making out but it’s not really doing it for me. I told her a few times and she tries initially to accomodate but life gets in the way and poof…the effort’s gone. I try to be straightforward with her when I’m in the mood but it’s instantly shut down.
She also makes me feel guilty. Always says “If you love me that much, wait for after we get married” or “If you love me, you’d understand my situation”. I do love her, but I’m just scared to tell her that it’s getting too much for me to bear.
I’m honestly just tearing up while I type this. Has anyone been in this situation? Should I stay in the hopes things get better after marriage?
Btw I earn well, decent looking (not ultra handsome) and doing well for myself.