u/IFoundAMoonRock

We had a lot in common, and the connection started off strong and intense. He was calling me “his person” and talking about getting engaged after a week of knowing each other.

I foolishly thought that because he was a psychiatrist he would have a solid understanding of his issues. He told me he had traits of borderline personality, and I was concerned, but he said, “having traits isn’t the same as a full on disorder.”

But this man is 35 years old, took a year off in medical school, took a year off in residency, was engaged 3 times and divorced once already. I think it’s foolish to rush in overall, but even more foolish knowing his history.

He is so attractive, and attentive, and I thought I was so lucky to find someone like him. But I did feel a bit uneasy with his pacing.

Anyway, we had sex for the first time and it was amazing. I found out on that same day that he was suicidal 5 months prior, had broken off an engagement 7 months prior, and not on any of his usual medications. I thought he had good insight and that we could work things out. I was willing to be there and help through his issues.

But today with no warning, he blocked my phone number and instagram. It was so jarring. I was devastated and felt a bit helpless and cried when I saw that. I would have appreciated a conversation. I’m not going to go around and find other ways to reach out to him. But I think I was a good partner with a lot to offer, and my friends think he will come back around since he did this a bit impulsively and abruptly.

I’m not sure what to think, or what to do at this point. Any advice?

34F going solo in VIP and looking for new friends :)

I was dating a psychiatrist that told me he had traits of BPD.