Why are we always focusing on youths?
I am just thinking about this. At the moment it sort of makes sense in US as they have become a battleground from the right wing (imagine turning kids into a battleground 🙄)
However, I meet more older people (because I am an adult without kids) and hear their stories.
I have a range of stories from people in their mid 30s to 80 and some of them are heartbreaking. Everyone is jealous of the youth (again, I am not talking America) who has spaces to go out and as a community we seem to say that “it is never too late”, but we don’t really facilitate this.
I met a trans girl (probably woman, but she was fucking cute) and we got to talk about hair when she told me that her party wig was to hide the fact that she had started to get a bald spot.
I were like “we need to do something about this”, but all the funding seems to go towards helping the youth.
(I saw her strength when she laughed at me at said: “but I get to wake up every day choosing my own hair color”)
The trans oldies live in a world where the job market is not really very welcoming either- and I can only imagine this causing financial issues too.
Or a man who came out late (in his 80s) and wanted to get his first boyfriend. He was an okay construction site worker, so he has lived in a deep closet, and really tried to find a community.
(Sweet story, he got a boyfriend (husband even) they were cute and his whole vibe just changed - the husband died though, but I am so happy for him)
I am just curious, should we reflect on this or is it just me who has this feeling?
I just want no one in the community feeling like they missed their chance. It is already hard to find friends as an adult, but could we do more?
Support creating more spaces?
Be more impressed by the work they have done for our rights?
I just sometimes feel like society have this assumption that if things go wrong in adolescence, there is no repair, and you are just considered a lost cause…. I get how we want to support from an early age, but we should also forgive people for having grown up in other times with other norms.