u/IamDistractingYou

The pain has become real.

I was with her for almost 3 wonderful years. She was the greatest person she knew how to be, right up until she wasn't, around mid February 2026. It was the longest relationship she ever had without any breaks and the longest she lived anywhere during her adult life.

This is when she met a friend (who is also F), stayed at where ever that friend happened be couch surfing that day. Or she would stay in hotels or Airbnb (even got kicked out of one). All the while I stayed home with her kid (now 6yo F)

She had this daily cycle from mid Feb until the breakup (unknown if continues like this exactly), work overnights, then get done work and go to that friend, get h!gh all day, and whatever else. Then maybe show up around 4 - 5pm, hang out with her kid for an hour or two. Then go back to work.

Finally at the end of April, I hit my breaking point and I broke up with her, not that I wanted to. She took her kid and herself and has been staying at places, that are known dr*g houses, unknown if her kid is with her at all.

I write this today, because I am worried about her and her kid. We rarely communicate, and I can tell she is spiraling down.

... I guess, maybe, I am looking for support to get though this. As I watch from the sidelines as a wonderful being, does these things to herself and whatever her child is being exposed to.

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u/IamDistractingYou — 3 days ago