In this world you can have anything you want, but you can’t have everything you want.
This is of those aphorisms that’s floating around the internet that I’ve adopted. Another is that if the thing you want more than anything doesn’t exist then do nothing. Me personally, my ideal relationship would be one where she and I are committed to each other but we live twenty minutes apart, never talk about marriage and never combine finances, and I learned that that’s my preference after decades of dating and relationship trial and error. But as it turns out, women who agree with me don’t live where I live, and since I like where I live and I know that compromising on my principles and dating someone who eventually expects me to move in with them would make me miserable, the only correct course of action is to be content in my current situation. It’s worked so far, I’m several years into this experiment and happier than I’ve ever been in my life. The only right thing to do here is to enjoy where I’ve gotten to in life and let the scenario play itself out, the wrong thing would be to choose from a panel of bad choices to try to force something to happen when things are already good.