AITA for pushing back on my sister's unsolicited advice and calling her out for being controlling?
For context, I (25M) have an older sister (27F) who has a habit of giving unsolicited advice and lecturing me even when I don't ask for it. When I do ask for advice, she tends to keep pushing her opinion even after I've clearly explained my reasoning for disagreeing.
Recently I asked her for advice on things to do over the summer. She gave me a few suggestions, most of which I agreed with. However she suggested I do in person coffee chats now. I disagreed because I just finished my undergrad and am not starting grad school (in another city) until January, so there's no real reason to be networking in person in my current city right now. For context I'm already doing online coffee chats, but her advice was specifically about in person ones. I was open to doing it once I actually get to my grad school city.
Instead of accepting my reasoning she kept pushing the idea. When I continued to disagree she made a passive aggressive comment, something along the lines of "some opinions aren't worth verbalizing," implying that since I was the one who asked for advice I had no right to push back on it. When I called it out she just deflected and turned it into a nitpick on who's right or wrong.
Near the end of the conversation I got emotional and brought up a pattern of controlling behavior. I'll admit that part escalated unnecessarily. I later apologized for getting emotional while making it clear that I still stand by my right to verbally express my reasons for disagreeing with one of her three suggestions. If she felt offended by that, I think that's on her. She could've communicated something like "I feel dismissed" instead of calling me inconsiderate for simply pushing back on her advice.
She left me on read.
AITA?