u/Iced-Latte-Girl

My eldest stepdaughter is almost 21 years old and her birthday is upcoming. I usually go all out for birthdays and Christmas’ for both stepkids and get really nice jewellery, thoughtful gifts, Jellycats etc. This year when it was my birthday my eldest stepdaughter only sent a text message and my birthday wasn’t acknowledged except for that. She also works full-time and probably has more expendable income than I do. Her birthday is coming up and I feel like I don’t really want to get her anything after that, but my husband thinks that’s mean? But I feel like at her age, I should have been acknowledged in someway and it hurt me that she didn’t. Just would like some outside perspective of what you would do in this situation?