Less independence as an only child bc of overbearing parents?
I’m a college student and an only child, and lately I’ve been wondering if anyone else feels like they have less independence because of overprotective or overbearing parents.
My parents care about me, and I understand that a lot of their concerns come from wanting to protect me. However, sometimes it feels like they have a hard time letting me grow up and experience life on my own.
I feel like I have to explain or justify a lot of my decisions, especially when it comes to my social life, going out with friends, or doing things independently. Sometimes, even when I want to make my own choices, I feel guilty because I know my parents might disagree or worry about me.
One thing that makes it difficult is seeing other college students who seem to have more freedom to make their own decisions without having to think about how their parents will react. I want to be able to make memories, spend time with friends, and have a normal college experience without feeling like I’m doing something wrong for wanting independence.
I also wonder if being an only child plays a role in this. When you're the only kid, does all the attention and concern sometimes turn into overprotection? Do parents have a harder time letting go because you're their only child?
I love my family, and I’m not trying to paint my parents as bad people. I just want to feel like I'm becoming my own person and learning how to navigate life without feeling like I constantly need permission or approval.
For those who grew up as only children with overprotective parents, did you struggle with independence in college? How did you get your parents to understand that growing up doesn't mean you love them any less?