Is it true?
"With one, you're a playmate, with two a chauffeur"
My husband and I have been Happily One and Done. But as our LO is reaching 3, my husband is starting to waver. He and I both are exhausted with all the effort we have to put into entertaining. We find ourselves defaulting to TV a lot more than we'd like...
As 3 approaches, I say, "We'll get LO into classes. Sports. Activities."
But he counters with, "That's still so much doing on our already full plates." And he doesn't say it, but I know he's worried about how much that will cost...
I run a small business, and he's a white-collar guy. We're not rich, but we're doing okay. One more is possible, using all the "hand-me-downs", and as you know it's more affordable to feed a family of 4 than of 3. So much waste!
The issue here is that I am drained. I don't have the emotional capacity to play with my kid as much as they want. I worry LO will hate me bc I don't play enough. Im worried they'll be unhappy.
I'm worried they *need* a sibling.
I can do, baby. The love the snuggles the cuddles. The late night feeding. I did it. It's almost peaceful.
But toddler play is driving me crazy!!!
Is having another like fixing a hole with a sledgehammer? Or does a second kid *actually* give the first someone *else* to obsess over?
Idk... personally, I am leaning towards No! But there is definitely a part of me that wants to do it again...
Advice? Experience? Or a scolding? Give it to me! Lol!
Edit to say: There's no need for hostilities or condescension here. I'm simply trying to get a ton of opinions in one place.