u/IcyAuthor8253

How do you cope?

My illness has literally stripped me of my identity. I can hardly do any of the things I love anymore, can’t eat the foods that I loved, and this may sound silly but this was the final straw - I had to take out my nose piercing and can never get any piercings or tattoos ever again because they cause issues for my illnesses. I had a whole plan as soon as I turned 18 to get some really pretty and funky tattoos and I only have two on my arm right now and it just looks stupid because it’s unfinished and it just makes me so sad. I am a very expressive and artsy person through the way that I look. I was so excited to customize my character and I can’t even do that anymore. My brain is also always betraying me, I have such horrible brain fog. I had so many hobbies and I can’t hardly do them anymore. I was a dancer and planned to dance in college to become a professional ballet dancer and all of my dreams are just crushed. I’m only 19 man, and this all started when I was only 13. It’s just slowly gotten worse and worse over time. I can’t hardly stand or walk. I really try to block it out and focus on the positives and burying my head in romantasy books, but it’s just so fucking hard dude. I’m so tired of not being able to be myself anymore. This illness has just completely taken my life away and has stripped my identity and destroyed my hopes and dreams. Does anyone have any advice or ways to cope? I’m struggling so bad. And on top of all of this there’s so many people that don’t believe me or think that I’m overreacting. I’m just so fucking sad man. I’m sorry for the rant and if some of this seems like I’m overreacting or doesn’t make any sense, my brain fog makes it really hard to put my thoughts together. If you have any questions or anything seems unclear feel free to ask!

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u/IcyAuthor8253 — 5 days ago

Looking for fantasy books with chronic illness/disability rep like Violet from Fourth Wing

So I just started reading Fourth Wing and I almost cried when I saw that Violet has a chronic illness and is still a strong capable badass, it made me feel really seen and special as someone with Lyme disease and other issues that cause chronic fatigue, pain, dizziness, etc. Are there any other fantasy or romantasy books with main characters who have chronic illnesses or disabilities like Violet? I’d love books with a similar feeling to Violet’s representation in Fourth Wing!

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u/IcyAuthor8253 — 8 days ago