u/IcyFisherman8059

Hey everyone. This might be a little random, but I’d really appreciate some perspectives from others here.

I’m a 36-year-old guy and have been living with a C5-6 spinal cord injury for about 16 years. When I was younger and first injured, I really didn’t think having children was something I wanted. Part of that was wondering how I would physically manage some aspects of parenting.
As I’ve gotten older, though, my perspective has changed quite a bit. I recently got out of a relationship, which has had me thinking more about what I want my future to look like. And I’ve realized that I would genuinely like to have at least one child someday.

I feel like I’ve built a pretty good life for myself. I’m well educated, have a good career, drive independently, travel quite a bit, and am financially and personally stable. I’m pretty easygoing, don’t smoke or drink, and the people close to me have always told me they think I’d make a great dad.
Obviously, having a C5-6 SCI adds some things to think about when it comes to parenting, and I know it would take the right person who is comfortable figuring out what that life could look like together. Physically, I’m also fully “functional” sexually, so I don’t know whether IVF or other fertility assistance would even be necessary.

For those of you with SCI or other significant physical disabilities who decided to have children: What has the experience been like? Are you glad you did it? Is there anything you wish you had known beforehand? I’d especially love to hear how you handled the physical parts of parenting when your kids were babies and toddlers.
And if anyone decided not to have children because of their disability, I’d appreciate hearing that perspective too. I’m open to all feedback, positive or negative.

Also, throwing this out there because you never know who might be reading, if there happen to be any single women around my age who can relate to this and might be open to talking, feel free to message me. Apparently I’m not too bad looking, and I’ve been told the blue eyes help.

Hello everyone, I’m a C5 incomplete and have some feeling (not completely normal) in my left leg and throughout my body. So I had to share my experience with people who will actually appreciate what is just happened. After 15 years, I have ejaculated twice in the last two weeks. I have had relationships and encounters where I’ve been intimate but never really orgasmed although those experiences have been nice and do feel good.

Let me get to the point, I’ve been going to a massage therapist. This massage therapist typically just focuses on my neck, back arms and upper body. I always get the massage in my Wheelchair where I pull under the massage table and lean over. At the end, she will typically rub my legs help with a little bit of circulation. However she got really close to my penis, brushed up against. I could tell that she had been thinking about it because I always have my shorts on so it was definitely intentional and then asked me if i wanted help with it.
I told her us we can try. Now for context about a year ago I got a penis implant and can inflate it when i want. For those of you who may not know, you are unable to get a full ejection after the surgery.

Well, I let her know that I had this, and I wasn’t going to pump it up (because I typically get the massage in my wheelchair and it’s very difficult to do if I’m in my chair). Also for me personally it feels sensitive either soft or hard anyway. After she started rubbing, I started experiencing some spasms and it felt very good… I like this go on for a few minutes and then we ended things. I wasn’t sure anything else going to be able to happen.

I went back a week later and she offered to do it again we got there and things really started progressing and she began rubbing very hard, and I was feeling very relaxed after the massage. She began rubbing it. I began experiencing spasms in my legs and torso. Next thing I knew I ejaculated everywhere. I think it was the combination of a little oil and focusing on the tip was something that I had not experienced before.

I returned about a week and a half later and she did the same thing and needless to say they have ejaculated twice now. Has anyone else started experiencing ejaculation like this?

I told her I would wait one week come back and I want her to show me exactly how she did it so stay tuned for an update….