u/IcyRip2199

Hi everyone

Link to original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/internetparents/s/9cgsZHqWL5

Posted here a couple days ago about a guy that got really agitated with me to a point where I shut down and he got out of my car at a stoplight and walked home. I have an update since that happened.
Monday morning, at like 4 AM, he calls me because he needed to get inside the apartment complex. I forgot to mention, we met because we live in the same building. I buzz him in because I didn’t want him to get angry again, but I should’ve just left him outside. If he had the app, he could’ve buzzed himself him but I guess he’s too lazy and stupid to do even that.
Then he texted me, “Yo”. Not, “I’m sorry for what happened”, or “Thank you for letting me in”, just a “Yo”. He also tried to call me twice but I was working at the same. I felt super uncomfortable that he was trying to contact me after he told me we’d never talk again after Sunday. Then he texted me AGAIN yesterday, but all he said was “Hey”.
Part of me feels like I should at least hear him out, but another part of me wants to ghost him. His behavior was eerily similar to an ex I dated a couple years ago and I don’t want to out myself through that again. Every time I think about talking to him again, I get really anxious.

I met “G” (M31), at the end of February. We’ve been talking on and off, hung out a couple times, but never went on an actual date. Today, he asked me to drive him to the store because he needed to get some things. Initially, I didn’t want to, but, I realized I needed things from the store so I took him. I get to his place around 9 AM, and he’s been drinking vodka since who knows when.
We’re driving to the store, and he falls asleep in my car. We get to the store, he takes a call from a friend so we veer off. He goes to the Lego section, I go to the sections I need to hit because I want to get out of there quickly. He grabs a Lego set and is still talking to someone else now in a different aisle. He waves me away when I approach him, and then he gets upset and walks away from me. Mind you, he still hasn’t gotten a thing we came here for and at this point, I’m ready to leave.
I check out, I am waiting for him at the front of the store, but he’s still taking his time so I ended up going back to my car. He calls me, and he asked me if I had his Lego set. Like??? What the hell, how do you lose a Lego set that quickly? I pick him up in front of the store and we’re driving back. At this point, I’m really uncomfortable and I shut down. He can tell something is wrong and is trying to get me to talk to him. I had an ex that would drink, and if I would try to talk to him about how I was feeling, he would gaslight me and turn the conversation into a full-blown argument.
G was starting to get agitated, I probably should’ve told him that I was uncomfortable, but I didn’t want to escalate anything. He told me that today would probably be the last day that we would talk and I told him OK. He told me, “I hope you tell all your friends about all the conversations that we could’ve had.” Then at a stoplight, he got out of my car and walked away.

Even before this happened, I saw a lot of red flags that I chose to ignore because I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. March was a really hard month for him in his personal and work life and I gave him space and was super understanding, and patient with him. But he kept pushing me away, and I should’ve just left, but I thought if I gave him a little gifts and stuff that maybe he would change.
There was one time I tried to tell him how burnt out I was feeling, and he turned the conversation back on me and was like, I don’t like to be scolded, and I feel like you’re scolding me.

I’ve told my friends about this, but in terms of family, I have no one to talk to about this. Please be kind.