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This Saturday I am finally moving out of my homophobic/transphobic family home.

They are very unsupportive of my relationship with my gf (who is trans) and it has made my life hell to be honest.

I am finally escaping but I feel so scared. I know that they will likely disown me when I move in with my gf.

I do feel relieved that I will have space away from such a toxic environment but I am also terrified and full of grief. I am losing my parents.

I keep hoping that my family will come round and welcome my gf with open arms, but it seems that they're going in the opposite direction 😞

I (24F) have been dating my trans gf for about 6 months now and I still live with intolerant parents. I’m in the process of trying to move out but I have to tell them that I’m going. I just don’t know if I’m strong enough.

They’ll probably want nothing to do with me once I leave and I’ll probably lose contact with lots of family and family friends. I feel so isolated. I’ll probably never see the family cat again (I am his favourite person and he always asks for cuddles from me).

Living with them has been suffocating. When they want to be homophobic my gf is a woman, when they want to be transphobic she is a man. They used to be more accepting but my mum has been reading a lot of anti trans propaganda recently and my dad just goes along with whatever she says.

I stay at my gf’s place every weekend and they get so mad every time I go. My friend’s parents might be able to offer me their spare room for a while before I can find somewhere more permanent.

I’m so scared. It’s not easy to leave but I just don’t feel safe at home.

I don’t want to have to choose between my parents and my partner but I have to. I feel sick.

They always tell me that I’m fragile and too weak to be independent. I don’t think I am. I’ve lived on my own before. I work two jobs and I earn money and do my taxes. It’s hard not to believe them though.

Anyone else gone through a similar situation and got through it?