40 M4F Maryland
40M | Maryland | Ace-spectrum | Looking for something real and steady
Taking a chance here to see who’s out there.
I’m 40, based in Maryland, and looking for a long-term partner — someone calm, intentional, and emotionally mature. I prefer local connections but I’m open to long-distance if the connection feels right and we’re both willing to make it work.
I’m on the ace spectrum. I tend to start more demisexual and shift toward ignotasexual over time. I’m sex-neutral overall — for me, intimacy is more about closeness, affection, and feeling connected. Think cuddling, kissing, hand-holding, and simply enjoying each other’s presence. Compatibility and communication around that matter more to me than anything physical.
About me:
- Calm, grounded, emotionally mature
- Dark humor (I joke around and yeah… I cuss, maybe a lot 😂)
- Big on respect, honesty, and clear communication
- Once I’m invested, I’m all in — I don’t do half-hearted connections
I work in commercial lending and live a pretty normal 9–5 life. Outside work I’m usually cooking or baking, shooting pool, fixing or building things, or getting into random creative projects. I built my own cornhole set just because I wanted to see if I could. I’m also a bit nerdy — coin collecting and Pokémon Go are real things in my world.
Music is a huge part of my life. Mostly rock, hard rock, alternative, and heavier stuff — Bring Me The Horizon, Falling in Reverse, Lorna Shore, Slaughter to Prevail, and whatever else catches my ear.
I’m a dad of three (not little kids anymore). They’re a big part of my life, and I’m looking for someone who respects that.
I’m also in the final stages of a divorce — amicable, moving toward closure, and very much focused on building a healthy next chapter.
What I value:
- Clarity and transparency
- Loyalty and emotional stability
- Someone comfortable with both conversation and quiet
- A partner who works through problems instead of avoiding them
Age range I’m comfortable with is roughly 28–45. Non-smoker preferred (cigarettes are a hard no).
I’m open to someone who isn’t ace as long as there’s mutual understanding and respect for how intimacy and attraction can evolve over time.
Small human detail: ice cream and horror movies make for a pretty perfect night.
If any of this resonates, feel free to reach out. I’m not looking to rush anything — just good conversation, genuine connection, and seeing where things naturally go.