How did you ex bridge the gap from indirect signaling to direct contact?
This is my first time on this rollercoaster and my ex who discarded me four months ago (quiet BPD, pretty mild case with years of DBT experience and good distress tolerance skills) is in the indirect signaling phase where she is doing everything in her power to bait/breadcrumb me into chasing her on social media, but is clearly not emotionally ready for direct contact, evidenced by the fact she panicked and blocked me when I tried. That has since been followed by a series of increasingly more aggressive/targeted baiting efforts that I've ignored because she just demonstrated that reaching out isn't productive. I know there is some serious unresolved attachment here and she appears to be doing some genuine processing based on her public posting (like admitting to her own failures and taking the responsibility for blowing up the relationship) but I'm not sure if this demonstrates and equal progression towards feeling comfortable talking. I've done what I can to remove myself from the equation. I dont engage and I've removed my socials myself so she cant stalk me as a means to self soothe.
For those of you who have been in this position, how did they come back? Did you do anything in particular to help nudge them along or just sit on the sidelines and let no contact do the heavy lifting?