Not sure if I’m overthinking or not
Can someone tell me if I’m overthinking about my sex life or not?
My husband (M30) and I (F27) have been together for 5 years now married for 3. We have always had a great relationship for the most part however intimacy has been somewhat of an issue. I seem to have a much higher sex drive than him and I feel like it’s starting to be an issue. We have had this conversation multiple times (I have asked him if he’s watching porn, not attracted to me, having other issues) and he denies all of it. We are trying to conceive so we have been having sex regularly and I felt like we were much more connected however it’s started to slowly slow down like before and we have sex maybe once a week. Recently after getting rejected after I initiated I told him he needs to initiate more and I’m going to give him the space to do that so I know he actually wants it and it isn’t something he is just doing for me. Since then it has slowed down even more. There was one spontaneous time we tried to have sex and he was having an issue staying hard… after this he sat me down and told me maybe he needs to get his testosterone checked because he was embarrassed that happened. I want to be supportive and I will have a conversation with him about how I feel but am I overthinking and maybe it is just a medical issue? He has not given me a reason to believe he would be watching porn and we live in a state where you have to put in a bunch of personal info to be able to watch porn and I don’t think he would do that but the men I’ve been with in the past wanted to have sex ALL the time so I’m just so confused. (Also this is not a new issue with me telling him I want more intimacy in our relationship we have had this conversation many times but the low testosterone comment came up recently)
TL;DR am I overthinking that my husband doesn’t want to be intimate or is there a bigger problem?