What would you do?
I (28F) unknowingly dated someone (27M) who is bipolar (unmedicated but in therapy for long time) for 9 months but recently broke things off. I've come to realize that he nearly love bombed me in the beginning. Told me he loved me way too soon and pressured me to commit earlier than I was ready for. I continued the relationship because he was a friend and I just plain fell for him.
Things were amazing in the beginning but then we had some downs. A few months ago he suddenly felt VERY threatened about my best friendship of 14 years and judged me for this even though I did nothing wrong. We talked for days before it was "resolved". The issue came up more times but he did not want to hear my "defense" or pov at all. Just wanted to tell me how much I hurt him but I had nothing to apologize for.
More recently, he would accuse me of not caring about his feelings and not being supportive (demonstrably untrue but you know how mania is). He got a bipolar diagnosis and started meds a month later after I kept pushing him in that direction. However, after 2 weeks of meds, I brought some of these problematic behaviors up. He said that he was sorry, the meds should prevent them in the future, but that I pressure him and don't apologize when I hurt him (also, untrue). Days later, I broke up with him because he totally deflected away from the issue I wanted to resolve.
Would you try again after more time medicated? I imagine that reaction was due to the BD symptoms and that after some more time, he might come back to his senses. Would you try to make things work together or cut your losses?
More context: we are in the same friend group and live in the same building. We cross paths often. We've been keeping things cordial but I know he misses me too. I miss him so much. This breakup hurts so bad.