u/Ill_Pudding8069

So I recently qualified to get some prism glasses. I do not have huge issues, but I had some and since I have migraines and tend to get a lot of eye fatigue my optometrist said it would be a good shot for me to try them to see if they helped (I had raised the question in the first place).

So, usually I need anti-reflection coating and a slight rose tint to my lenses. The anti-reflection is important: I am photophobic and I will get migraines otherwise, been there, done that, I just accepted I need to spend more for my lenses if I want to be comfortable.

Now, the issue is: I had my usual order, PLUS a light prism onto my lenses. There is a lot of reflections everywhere on my lenses: the nub near the nose bounces off light, the frame bounces off light, everything causes reflections on the lenses. I do not know if this is because my eyes need to get used to looking at things via prism, or if there was some mistake in the manufacturing of my glasses and they skipped the anti reflection somehow, or if anti reflection coating is incompatible with prism.

Could anyone tell me whether this is normal?

I do have insurance, and if there were issues I could bring the glasses back, but I would rather know if it is a matter of habit or if I should spare myself the grief of 28394958 migraines from lens reflection and make an appointment asap.

So I will open his saying I 100% know I have dysphoria and have wanted my big boobs gone for over a decade now.

I have booked a consultation appointment and I am hoping to get things removed before 2027.

That said... the consult is drawing closer and I am having doubts and I do not know where to begin with making up my mind.

I am a very risk-avert person and need to think things over a thousand times and have all pros and cons laid in front of me before I take a decision, so this is part of my personality, but I do not know if the surgeon is going to allow me to ask him questions to help me decide or if he will want me to have already decided everything on my own.

Basically my doubts are around two topics.

A. Nipple vs no nipple: my nipples right now are basically useless: way too sensitive and not in a good way, and constantly erect and perky for three years now, poking through clothes all the time no matter how many layers I wear, and uneven af... it's a nightmare.

I like having nipple colour, but I hate having nipple relief. However, I have HI/MCAS so a tattoo would be very risky. So I was wondering if I should go no nipple, but I am scared of regretting it.

Can anyone tell me about their experience in this regard?

B. I used to want a radical breast reduction to an A cup, then I started binding and realized that even that small leftover relief bothered me, so I thought a flat mastectomy would make me happier. I have massive dysphoria even feeling my boobs over my skin, and I am really happy whenever I achieve a flat look.

But there is the possibility of me moving back to my own country, and I am scared: small boobs would allow me to go stealth and wear some padded bras to avoid comments and harassment and even questions from my family.

However, this is my only chance in life to get this surgery: I will not get a second chance. And I do not want to spend all that money just to make other people happy. But I also do not want to make my life a living hell. And I just do not know what to do and who I can talk to about this.

The consult is in early june (I booked it months ago), and I know last time when my friend went the surgeon seemed to want to be really sure they were certain about every single aspect of it, from scars to nipples to wanting a masculine chest. He also seemed to appreciate that they were taking T. So I am afraid not being 100% certain will make him refuse to operate me at all. And I don't know how to make sure my mind is firm in such a short time.

Any advice?

I am sitting right now at a doctor's office's waiting room and their radio is on pretty loud. I am in postdrome, and still pretty fragile, and my husband is having one hell of a headache (and had it for three days, with sound sensitivity). And it just got me to notice again how fucking hostile the world is to anyone with headache and neurological conditions.

Like: everywhere I go there is fluorescent bright lights on, even when natural light would be enough to light up the space, and music music music radio radio radio, tv ons all the time, and if you ask to lower things down or turn them off then they treat you like an asshole. It is always their fun wants against needs they do not care about.

People partying with their cars blasting bass at the parking lot, people with headlights so bright I legit cannot drive anymore because it would be too dangerous for me to even try, because I legit cannot see after my eyes land on something that bright.

Why are people scared of silence, natural sounds, and a little bit of darkness and dimness in their space? The sky is so bright it is basically bright and an entire wall is made of windows, you would think that is enough. But no: overhead fluorescent lights. Because uuuh... reasons.

Like, I have just got out of a migraine that lasted ages and this stupid fucking radio I cannot turn off is making the side of my head pound. I hate this. I hate the feeling of mattering so little to other human beings they would probably prefer if I just disappeared so they wouldn't have to modify their "fun" behaviour.

You do not need music and bright lights everywhere. But apparently I need to be a recluse if I want to live with a tiny bit of quality of life, and to suffer whenever I go out for reasons I cannot avoid. I do not even live in a city, but nowadays even living in the country gives you no respite.

No, it is big bassy pop music everywhere and loud motorbike engines everywhere and flashing lights everywhere and gods damn it how am I even supposed to live like this when everything fucking hurts all the time?