u/Illustrious-Click706

Hi everyone. Some context, I am about 5 months pregnant right now and my mom is planning my baby shower. I’m very grateful to have her and it’s mostly been going well besides some minor issues along the way. I am a relatively easy person, I don’t usually like having anything huge for myself and don’t really like having a ton of attention on me, so I’m pretty much ok with anything and had almost no requests on the actual planning. We’ve had some minor conflicts, wouldn’t even call them arguments, due to the date of the shower. It’s about a month out, having it on the earlier side due to family being in town that we both want to be in attendance, no issues there. There were some other issues on when to have it on a Saturday or Sunday but that also got resolved but she did get upset with me for wanting to arrange it on a day so that a few people I really wanted to be there could be. The current issue is that my birthday is coming up and literally all I wanted to do was having a family dinner, only 8 people total. She offered to do it at her house and we decided to do hotdogs and hamburgers, cookout kinda thing. I was actually really looking forward to this and now she texted me saying that she actually is going to do a practice run for the shower for my birthday dinner, which is all brunch food. I don’t want to cause any conflict or upset her, she tends to take things super personally, but I really don’t want what was supposed to be a dinner to become a trial run for her. I know she doesn’t need to be doing any of this but idk if it’s too much to ask that my birthday be its own thing. Sorry for all the backstory, but it seemed relevant to me not wanting to see ungrateful. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!