Married or Happily Married
For three years a colleague has been making eyes at me. She is a few years younger than me, very attractive, and our friendship has been borderline emotionally intimate and platonic. We are both married and honestly, have good marriages. Like any marriages, there are things her husband doesn’t satisfy that she deals with and on my end, my wife’s menopause has compounded a few difficult quirks that I’ve resolved to overlook and honestly has made being married to her difficult. I love my wife, but struggle to feel in love with her. I don’t want to waste my wife’s time, but I am still figuring me out. I haven’t divorced her due to finances, pets, and our young adult children….
This woman has been on my mind for three years. Unnatural to me, I hinted that I liked her in January and she said to chill. I did. Then on Valentine’s Day, she DM’d me a benign question that she could have asked me at anytime… I replied three days later to respect her boundaries. As of late, she’s been super helpful to me in preparation for a career move, going as far as to reach out to me and help me to unveil my weaknesses… during the interview process and it made all the difference.
She knows that I like her. She makes eyes at me often, and I am fucking smitten. Catching myself dreaming of potential futures with her, I finally asked her yesterday - are you happily married or simply married. I need to gauge her. She replied happily married… If life wasn’t confusing enough right now, that wasn’t the answer I was expecting. Stuck dealing with this…