u/Illustrious-File4978

I saw a post from a few days ago and feel like I did this to someone one time

So, I have a friend, they/he, who considers themself a demiboy, and frankly likes they WAY more than he, and I feel bad because I think I might have pressured them into wanting to use the he pronoun.

Tbh, they kinda brushed it off like nothing repeatedly, and when they said they didn't know, I didn't push him to figure it out. But I saw "signs" that they were transmasc and stated to them the possibility repeatedly. Likely as a reflection of my own journey, which went from 'I go by he/they, just trying out the pronoun, and there is ZERO chance I'm a trans woman' to a year later my pronouns are she/her and my name is Adra and my dad is having aneurysms about having to go against his faith to see me as his daughter that wants a husband. Which... honestly I don't even want a husband and that's kinda sexist but it would be a MASSIVE step in the right direction.

Lmao I'm so sorry for rambling like this the point is I feel bad because I think I pressured a nonbinary person to be transmasc. Did I do that? I apologized to them and they said they figured it out themself but I'm not sure that I had nothing to do with his pronouns changing.

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I am transfemininine and my pronouns are she/her. They/them doesn't feel right anymore and it/its feels very not right (as if I'm being objectified, even though that is not what is happening.) Sometimes, I am overwhelmed with gender dysphoria, but other times, I feel nothing, really. I see gender as something I should care about but for some reason don't. Is there a term for something like this? Is this agender, or am I misusing the label?

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u/Illustrious-File4978 — 20 days ago