Difficult situation to approach in a secure way. How do I do it?
Ok so long story short... My bf and I teach dance classes. There's a woman in one of my classes who is a bit too friendly with him (getting close to him, touching his arm, all her attention is on him). We have talked about her before and said she's a bit much, she has a bit of a "crazy" personality so we brushed it off basically. Anyway she was at my class yesterday and said "I messaged to ask what we were doing today" I said "oh you messaged me?" Thinking I hadn't seen her message.. she said no, she had messaged <my boyfriend>... Well, I was not aware they had exchanged numbers. And I have no idea why they would have. The only thing I can think is that they used to work in the same place, and maybe it was something to do with work. But he usually tells me everything and he never mentioned for example "oh that woman from class asked me about xyz". From what I gather this woman has a girlfriend so she might actually be gay but from her behaviour towards him it's hard to tell, it seems like she's attracted to him. I just had to teach the class with her in it, the whole time with this on my mind. It was awful.
So now the analysis comes. How to be secure in THIS situation?
- I trust my bf. He is a good person and loyal. I just do not understand why they have each others' numbers or why he never told me that.
- If it were anything untoward, she wouldn't have said to my face that she'd messaged him. - Just the other day he said to me "I haven't seen <woman's name> in class for a while" so it's doubtful they are messaging each other. He seemed to have no clue where she'd been and had forgotten about her.
- It was probably some work-related reason.
I really want to ask him why they have exchanged numbers. But I have to calm down and I don't even know if that's the right thing to do...
From my side - Lots of class participants message me (including her), but that is on Instagram. He doesn't follow her on Instagram and she doesn't follow him. So it must be via text. I think getting someone's number is a step up from adding them on Instagram and messaging there. I just don't know *why* they have exchanged numbers. And that is what's bothering me.
He is a very loving, loyal and honest boyfriend, can't fault him. This isn't really me saying "something is going on" because I don't think there is. It's more about me saying... I have no idea how to act. My instinct is to go nuts at him. I can't do that. For some reason, which I don't think is untoward, they swapped numbers. She makes me uncomfortable, and he didn't mention it, which is why this bothers me so much. I don't know how to be ok with it
What do you think... How do I let this go? Or do I say something?
Thank you.