Family advice
I really need some advice because I feel emotionally exhausted and conflicted. I’ve been seeing a guy for a few years now we started off as friends, then became closer and eventually I saw him as my partner. I’m Muslim, he’s Hindu, and from the beginning his parents never liked me despite never meeting me, while he’s met my family. I also have a daughter from a previous relationship that ended due to domestic violence, and I had her young. Last year I had a miscarriage with him which traumatised me deeply, and then only weeks later I found out I was pregnant again even though I was on the pill. At first I was confused and grieving, but as the pregnancy progressed I became attached to the baby and by 14 weeks, when I felt her move, I knew I wanted to keep her. Throughout the pregnancy he kept changing his mind — sometimes wanting an abortion, other times saying he wanted me and the baby. My family told me to ask if he was serious about us, and when I did he told me to say we were “working things out.” The hardest part is that he never told his family about me or the pregnancy, so in the end we basically showed up with a newborn because I refused to live hidden like a secret or a double life. Since then everything has been incredibly difficult. His family constantly pressure him because of the baby being born out of wedlock, our different religions, and my past. I just want advice on whether this situation can realistically get better and how to cope with feeling unwanted and hidden in someone else’s life.
They want him to choose
Love shouldn’t feel like living a secret while carrying the weight of two families, religion, trauma, motherhood, and a baby that deserves peace. I just want to know if this ever gets easier.
EDIT I forgot to mention they have met the baby since September like only twice and accept her I believe but not me.
They don’t want us to be together they gave him an ultimatum to choose. He’s mental health hasn’t been okay either from this