I’ve been seeing this guy for the last 4 months. He texted me regularly (mostly sending reels), we flirted, and we kissed a few times (always initiated by him, though we never slept together).
He told me numerous times that he did not want a relationship. He even refused to go out for dinner because he felt it was "too relationship-y." I was okay with that and respected his boundaries.
Two weeks ago, he was driving me home and asked if I did any sports. I told him I couldn't imagine going to the gym right now because I’m juggling work, school, and writing my thesis. He then told me that he and his therapist agreed he "needs a girlfriend who does sports."
I laughed and said, "Well, luckily for you, I don't want to be your girlfriend."
He seemed shocked, but we both laughed it off. However, since then, he hasn't texted me first. When I text him, he only "likes" my message and doesn't reply. It’s very weird.
I’m thinking about texting him to ask if I hurt his ego. I was open to dating him, but since he constantly reminded me he didn’t want a relationship, I wasn't going to sit around hoping he’d change his mind. I’d feel "dumb" doing that.
Some context: He’s coming out of a really bad, long-term relationship and is still trying to get over it.
Should I reach out and explain myself, or just leave it? I am okay with any answer by now but i would love to know what he thinks.