u/Illustrious_City3971

Hi all,

I am wondering if anyone struggles with feeling like you’re not spending your time correctly so you must be a bad person for not getting things done/enjoying the time enough, etc.?

For example, I am in Canada and it is a holiday long weekend here. I have been in this obsessive loop for two days that I am not spending my holiday weekend correctly and feeling like that makes me a bad person because I don’t know how to enjoy things or be present. I feel like there are so many things on my to do list (errands, gym, answering messages, housework) but then I also feel like maybe I should relax and spend some time on things I enjoy but I know that either way I will feel guilty for either not being productive enough or not enjoying time off work properly (whatever that means).

Worst of all is that I get so stuck in thinking about this that I waste so much time and then I truly haven’t been present at all. Like yesterday morning and this morning, I felt so overwhelmed by this when I woke up that I spent an extra hour laying in bed trying to figure out what to do with the day but nothing feels like the right way to spend time.

I am trying to break that by just getting up and doing SOMETHING to start my day but my head is always spinning about this moral value I place on time and being present and productivity. I would love for once to actually enjoy an extra day off work and not spend the whole day thinking about the right way to enjoy it!