Porn addiction and how to be supportive but also tend to yourself
My (28f) husband (28m) has a porn addiction (it started out as just Reddit pictures/videos of girls but has turned to full on videos and of course TikTok didn’t help or Instagram, which he has neither now but he still uses Twitter (x) and reddit) and I feel it just gets worse and worse every time we talk about it. If we have sex, he uses it more, and so I have caught myself not wanting to have sex because he uses it less and I feel less bad about it.
I don’t know how to help him. We’ve been together for almost 10 years, highschool sweethearts, and it’s been a core discussion and battle in our life.
I just want to help. I just want to support him so we can move on. I find myself angry and again, I avoid sex and I realized I don’t try to dress seductively anymore, so maybe I have internalized his porn addiction without realizing it.
I just don’t know what to do to help and maybe I need to ask him but when we talk about it, he always just says “yeah it’s an addiction I’ve had for a long time.”
Divorce is not an option because I do love him with my whole heart. Do I just need to come to terms that this is my life? That I’ll just be angry and disappointed. How do I raise my son to not turn out this way?