I met this guy about a year ago and we had something, but it ended because we used to argue a lot. I can be quite fiery and instead of calming things down, he would either match my energy or shut down, so small things would turn into big arguments. Our families saw that side of us, which is why mine is completely against us being together now.
We didn’t speak for about 6 months, and then about 2 weeks ago we started talking again. Since then, things have actually been really good. We’ve both been trying to communicate better, and when we’ve had small disagreements, they haven’t blown up like before. He’s not shutting down anymore, and I’ve been trying to be more calm and respectful too.
The thing is, even though it’s only been 2 weeks, we talk all the time and see each other a lot, so it feels way longer than that. I’m already getting attached again.
I do really like him, and I can see something serious with him, like marriage. He says he loves me and wants that too, but he’s going through something right now and says I need to be patient. He won’t give me a timeline, just that these things take time and I need to trust him.
I’ll be honest, he does have a past and not the best one. That’s something everyone around me keeps bringing up, especially my family. But he says he’s trying to change, and part of me believes that. I know it’s a risk, but it’s one I feel like I’m willing to take and see through.
At the same time, I don’t want to be strung along, and I also don’t want to pressure him or force something before it’s right. I get his point that we just started speaking again and it’s only been 2 weeks.
But then I’m also scared of getting deeper into this and ending up hurt again, especially with everything that’s happened before and my family being completely against it.
I feel like I’m stuck between giving this a chance and protecting myself. Idk how to go about this ?